Gone are those days I needed God to prove himself to me! I would say "oh God prove yourself that you are this or that you are that" I have come to understand that God is God irrespective of how I feel or think about him! He is 'I am'! 

My situation does not and will not change God from being God and when he decides to be glorified in my situation, happy I am! So many times, we claim right as sons to demand and foster our will instead of the will of God! 

"God you said this, you said that therefore do it for me as you have said for I am your son..." But honestly a son should be dead to his own will and will not do anything just because it is his right but because it is God's will for him

"...Father, if thou be willing, remove this cup from me: nevertheless not my will, but thine, be done." Apostle Paul also had an understanding of this when he said 

"All things are lawful for me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but all things edify not." 

Some things are just not convenient for sons! Sons do not just seek comfort and a better life but that God be glorified in whatever is happening to them, through them and around them! If it is all for your sake, satisfaction, comfort, pride then, you have to check it and retrace your steps! 

Every promise and every blessing entitled to you in his word is sure for you but as a matter of fact, it comes with timing and seasons! 

And every season comes with a purpose, when the purpose for is season is fulfilled, God is glorified and  you gain increase in capacity and stature and more is committed into your hands for a higher and greater purpose! 

Believe me when I say everything is well programmed and there is no promise or blessing that is given to you for nothing, that is, God makes everything available that is needed in each season to fulfil his purpose. 

It is unfortunate that most of the things we are struggling for are actually irrelevant to fulfilling God's agenda for us at this point in time! 

It is very possible for one to refuse to grow or gain capacity and stature even after season and seasons by refusing to align with God's purpose and as such God cannot entrust to such a person the so much he has in stock for him or her!

 Little wonder so many persons keep struggling even when they believe and confess Jesus as Lord and Saviour!

"Now I say, That the heir, as long as he is a child, differeth nothing from a servant, though he be lord of all; But is under tutors and governors..." 

It is my prayer for you this morning that you will learn to align yourself with God's plan at every point in time that you grow thereby! 

GoodMorningFromIseme

"I am black, but comely, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, as the tents of Kedar, as the curtains of Solomon. Look not upon me, because I am black, because the sun hath looked upon me..."

Though I am beautiful yet, it is not obvious nor apparent to many if not all! Because of the struggles and huddles under the sun, the difficulties and challenges of life.

As a matter of fact, we choose whatever we want out of life and I choose the path of purpose and fulfilment and this of course is demanding and tedious unlike the path of ease which is aimless and vain!

The path of purpose entails a process of becoming that crushes, makes, remakes, trims, shape etc one into the intended person!

There is almost a distortion for there to be a transformation and as such my beauty is hidden and no one ever thinks I am beautiful!

Like it was said of Jesus in the bible so is my case, I have no form nor comeliness; and when they see me, there is no beauty that they should desire me!

Yet, unlike every other person he desired me with so much passion that I keep wondering what is attracting him to me, why is he so interested in me?

I am despised and rejected of many; a struggling lady, acquainted with suffering and hardship: and they hide as it were their faces from me; I am despised, and they esteemed me not yet, he says he loves me.

He is obviously different, he sees that which is not obvious to others! He says "you are beautiful, it's just a matter of time when the burden is lifted off your shoulder and the yoke is broken from off your neck then, your beauty will be obvious and glaring for all to see!" Wow!

Like everyone else, I can see that I am black but he says " you glow, just wait for your season of harvest and rest then, you will attest to it that you glow!

Remember, 'It is good for a man that he bear the yoke in his youth' and that is exactly what you are doing!"

It is overwhelming and unbelievable that someone else can actually see my beauty though I am black!

So many young people, ladies and guys inclusive have lost focus of the goal because of the suffering and uncomeliness that comes with achieving the goal and fulfilling purpose but they forget that the unattractiveness and suffering is only for a season.

Gold goes through the furnace and comes out finer but most persons jump out of the furnace before they are refined and get a quick fix coating or easy success that will not stand the test of time! For the fact that it is glittering does not make it gold. 

So, you are wrong if all you are after is beauty and glitters! Gold does not just glitter, it is durable, valuable, reliable, substantial, precious and of course not cheap!

If he or she fails to see beyond your struggles and sufferings, if he or she is not attracted because you seem not to be beautiful then, you honestly deserve someone better!

Why should you forsake defining who you are in the process of becoming just to be accepted by someone who does not know your worth?

You don't just need a guy or lady who will admire you but one who will cherish you and be responsible enough to handle, manage and treat you right, sharing your purpose and fulfilment!

It takes only a guy or lady who can identify with you in the furnace to do that!

 Therefore, don't get yourself worked up over the person or persons who despise or reject you for lack of beauty or comfort, you should patiently wait for the person who will value you like you deserve! Do have a lovely weekend!
GoodMorningFromIseme

You cannot be here and there and not be confused! Lack of conviction is the reason your life is the way it is right now. You can't even explain what is happening to you, things are never the way you expect them to be. 

Everyone else seems to be doing great and living happily except you, you have concluded that good things do not come to you! Every now and then, you are swinging from one mood to another. 

Sometimes, you wonder if God actually exist! Other times, you think you are just unfortunate and nothing is interesting about you! It pains me for you that you have not experienced or encountered the God you think you believe or know! 

If you do, you won't be struggling with your identity nor conviction! No wonder the bible says "Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof..." You are easily carried away by all the things you see around you and you continually wish you are this person or that person! 

How about becoming the person God created you to be? How I wish you can be conscious of what God has said about you! How I wish you will be interested in what God wants to do with you! 

So many so called believers are miserable because of a passive faith! You must actively believe to be a partaker and enjoy all that is available for you as a child of God!

Do you really trust God? Deep down, you know you are not sure! Sometimes, you wish your life was better off than this, you even wish you could relate with God better but you have been deluded that your life is not comfortable enough for you to seek God! 

Not until you believe to the extent of seeking God then, your faith is inactive! In Corinthians, the bible says "...the kingdom of God is not in word, but in power." 

A Christian walk that lacks power is as empty and limited as anything you can think of, you are ordinary and confused because you lack power! 

Have you not read in the bible that if the spirit that raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you, he shall quicken your mortal bodies? That spirit is the power of God at work in us who believe, the power that enables you to become a son of God! 

Your lack of joy and peace is as a result of lack of God's power! In Romans the bible says "...the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost." 

It is obviously impossible to be a believer without the Holy ghost, He is the power at work in us who believe both to will and to do of his good pleasure! 

Life in Jesus is the most and in fact, the only fulfilling life I know, it won't cost you anything to seek God but a willing and a broken heart! 

You don't have to be depressed neither should you be miserable, your life is worth it and you are not unfortunate! 

GoodMorningFromIseme

For lack of it many are devastated and desolate. In attempt to describe it, so many are confused and have concluded that it does not exist! 

In search for it, others have wandered off and are lost! In trying to protect and preserve it, many are wounded and miserable even when it was not it in the first place. So many persons are willing to offer so much or give a ransom for it but then, it is priceless! 

Some have asked if possessing it is based on merit or favour and I say both are required! Meanwhile, some got it and took it for granted and as such they lost it! Some have believed and are seriously holding unto something else in place of it no matter what it cost them. 

Only few have found it and of course it has brought with it balance, peace and joy to such lives! What could it be? It is 'love'! 

Looking at the different categories of persons and the many casualties who do not even know what they seek, I wonder! What exactly is the problem? 

And I have discovered that two main factors are responsible why many have not found love and won't even recognize it when they find it!

1. Misconceptions: so many persons have a wrong idea of the word 'love'! People grow up taking in so much garbage on the subject matter and the information they receive moulds or rather builds a wrong concept in them and with time as they grow, they tend to act base on the information they have gathered so far! 

It's unfortunate almost everyone has something to say about love, that is how significant it is in the life of every individual! Every person needs to be loved and desire to love as well. 

Some persons are not satisfied no matter how they try to satisfy themselves because love is missing in their lives and because the need for it is common to everyone, it is a topic with too many instructors who themselves lack true understanding and meaning of love.

2. Wrong sources: love is mystical, sacred and it has depth beyond the physical! It has its root in God, little wonder the bible says God is love! So when you are searching for love invariably, you are searching for God! Yes!

"...for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God." The reason why you have learnt or gotten something else in place of love is because you have refused to seek God nor accept His love!

As a matter of fact and urgency, you have to unlearn virtually everything you have learnt about love because what you think you know is actually the problem you have! 

Unlike the concept of love, the reality of love is not something trending nor ubiquitous, only few persons know what love is and have experienced love and others say it does not exist because they fail to find!

How would you know if you are holding unto something else in place of love?

1. Love is not selfish: it considers the other person. It has nothing to do with exploitation rather, it sacrifices for the sake of another.

If all he or she is after is his/her own benefit and comfort then such a person has no love.

2. Love brings glory to God: anything contrary to the will and standard of God is not love! A life that has love will glorify God in any relationship, if your relationship is not interested in pleasing God then, what you call love is actually lust.

3. Love is peaceful: true love gives hope and assurance and ensures a life pleasing to God and as such it brings peace. "There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment..."

4. Love is patient and it endures: because it is not selfish, it makes allowance for the fault and mistakes of others. It is accommodating!

5. Love is joyful: if love has made you miserable then, it is obviously not love. 

The only way to ascertain true love is to first accept God's love!

It is my prayer for you this morning that you do not enslave yourself in the name of love and I pray for God's deliverance for as many who are in bondage already!
Do have a lovely weekend!

I have heard people say "listen to your heart, follow your heart" and it sounds as though the heart is so specific and accurate but the bible says the heart of man is deceitful and wicked... 

The same heart most persons are counting on for right direction and sound decisions! When is it right? They say when it feels right but it is most times not right even when it feels right!

As a matter of fact, this has led many persons into pain and regret with great lamentation, if only I knew but how would I have known? they cry! The bible says "let this mind be in you which was in Christ Jesus..." 

There is something special about that mind which was in Christ Jesus since, he didn't just do the things that are right and good but that which is the perfect will of God! 

As much as we can not trust our lives and destinies with men even so we can not trust ourselves with it! The bible recorded that woe is he that put his trust in a man. Who then should man trust and rely upon for direction? God!

 Is God willing to guide you? Obviously, he is  willing and the scriptures even says that "the steps of a righteous man are ordered by God" so the issue is with us! It is either you are not righteous or you have refused to yield to his leading! 

Believing in Jesus as your Lord and saviour automatically makes you righteous even though as you grow in him, you must ensure that the new man that is the righteous nature inside of you finds expression through your attitude and character. 

By constantly learning of him and bringing your body under subjection! Meanwhile, some persons though they have accepted Jesus as Lord and saviour and are therefore righteous yet, they have failed or refused to surrender to him totally! 

Therefore, they struggle with things and issues they ordinarily should not find difficult! The bible says "Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths." 

When you are directed by God then, you are certain even in the face of challenges! There is this peace of mind that keeps you stable even when the situation does not look like it! 

Another thing is the safety that comes with walking in the path cut out for you by God and whatever the path maybe, you can always find strength from the one who is leading you! 

Because some persons get to know the right thing to do but lack the strength to do it! Finally, "There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death." Let God lead you! 

GoodMorningFromIseme

"...Funny enough, it seems I am lucky when it comes to having nice guys because Williams is honestly an amazing guy and Nelson on the other hand is an angel but I just can't stay in a relationship for more than six months! 

At the beginning I always find these guys interesting and fun but soon everything becomes boring and sometimes irritating even! I wonder how people stay in a relationship for years not to even talk of marriage, it scares me! 

I might just wake up one morning and tell him I need a divorce. I mean, how can one sustain that fire that is so irresistible at the beginning?..." 

Many people especially ladies keep walking out of relationships in spite of how good or awesome their partners are for the sole reason that they are bored! 

And you wonder why some persons are just too difficult to please or why they cannot just be satisfied! 

What keeps two together beyond the confession "I love you" and what have you, is fruitfulness! If all there is to your relationship is fun, fun and fun then, in no time you will be worn out! 

As individuals, we naturally need and demand more even without knowing! A fruitful and worthy relationship makes us better persons, gives us the courage and strength to face our fears and serves as a cushion in shock and terror! 

Life is much more real and tasking than those times of awesome staring, whispering of sweet nothing, holding of hands and all of that! 

Life is demanding, challenging and fierce and not until your relationship plays a role in maintaining stability and focus then, it is unfruitful and will definitely not pass the test of time! 

The reality of life is the true test of a worthy relationship! In what way are you of help to him? Do you honestly share his vision and goals? What about his challenges and fears? Or are you just there to give him a massage and go hanging out? He needs much more than that.

He needs someone to complete him, he needs someone to help, support and encourage him! If you sincerely give attention to the things that matter and are purposeful, you will be too engrossed and useful to get bored! 

If your interest is to complement him then, you will seek out ways to help even if it's just to be an encouragement to him and as such, your zeal and passion will remain intact! 

Many persons become bored as a result of self-interest and greed, they are just too concerned about themselves and what they can get out of the relationship therefore, they always experience a diminishing satisfaction with time! 

The euphoria they experienced initially disappears in the face of reality! A relationship that lacks reality is one without direction and purpose and will definitely not last! 

Purpose drives your passion and zeal, don't just be in a relationship be purposeful about it and do not be selfish! Good morning and happy weekend!

Leaving the house that morning was not easy for her, she kept checking and checking herself in the mirror. Something was wrong with her outfit and she knew it but she really wanted something new or different from her regular outfits!

 "These clothes are not so bad I guess but why do I feel so wired" she muttered! Though she was not comfortable in the clothes nevertheless she wore them at least let her wear something they have not known her with in her place of work! 

As she walked down the road, she kept feeling bad and offended by everyone smiling or any two persons giggling because they seemed to be laughing at her even when no one actually noticed her. 

She just felt she was the reason people were looking at and laughing! She was already not comfortable with herself when she left the house but on her way to work, she felt so awkward and wished she could disappear... 

I guess you might have had a similar experience! But why do I have to share this story this morning? 

To remind you that how you see yourself and what you feel about yourself matters a lot! 

If you are not comfortable with the person you are, you will obviously think everyone is not comfortable with you too! You will always find fault in how people relate with you even when they behave or act normal. 

Because you esteem yourself lowly, you feel everyone wants to take advantage of you! When a person sincerely appreciates you, you see it as mockery because you don't think you are good enough! 

Meanwhile, I have also seen persons whose outfits were nothing to write home about but their charisma sent a different message across, I mean the guy looks unkept not actually because he is dirty but his clothes are just too poor, old and archaic.

But with his attitude we said that he is just being funny, he does not really care meanwhile he does just that maybe he could not afford something better but because he refused to be dispirited we saw him in a different light! 

That is exactly what self-esteem can do, carry yourself with dignity no matter your limitations, let it be that your love for yourself supersedes whatever is happening around you! 

Stop feeling bad because you think people think less of you, they only call you by the name you call yourself! 

So, if you present yourself to them as weak, poor, naive, foolish etc they simply see you that way. What I'm I trying to say? People will call you the name you choose to answer which means the problem is not without but within! 

You are the problem and not people! Get the right mindset about your personality, come to terms with your weaknesses and learn to love and respect yourself in spite of your shortcomings! 

Value and express the good in you and it will overshadow the negative, after all, no one is entirely good! Always remember that people see you through your own eyes so, see the good in you and appreciate yourself! 

It is difficult to love a person who lacks self love! In fact, loving them is a crime because they see everything wrong in you loving them! 

I hope people don't find it difficult to love you, do have a blessed day! 

GoodMorningFromIseme

In as much as he or she is willing to step up then standards and statuses become inconsequential in love! But what would you say of a guy or lady who is not there yet and has no drive to get there? 

You know, we advise that you don't accept or reject love base on a person's status but on values especially when he or she has potentials but I want to point out this morning that some very talented promising young persons do fail to manifest. 

Because they lack the drive to ensure their potentials manifest in reality and as such they become a disappointment to you who hoped for a brighter future with them! 

Lack of drive is actually the reason why some of them are the way they are and where they are in spite of how endowed they maybe! So, as much as you admire his or her potentials you should also look out for his or her drive for excellence especially if you aim for such! 

If not at the end of the day, you will end up frustrated not just because the hope you had in him or her will be dashed but that he or she will also limit you! Instead of complementing you, you will always have to drag him or her along and as such he or she becomes a weight that slows you down! 

This is one reason why we have some frustrated married people around, especially ladies who had high expectations of their husbands before they got married! 

She saw in him an intelligent, smart, responsible and even godly personality though, he had nothing she hoped for a brighter future but here she is in the future and things are only getting worst by the day. 

She use to be this happy and satisfied person whether with little or much but since she got married, she has not known satisfaction! Her hopes were dashed and she seems bond and limited without ambitions and aspirations! 

He keeps repeating the same promises that things will get better soon, some even blame their misfortune on spiritual beings and others simply give up with the excuse that they have tried all that is within their reach! 

In such a case, he is never frustrated as the lady because in the first place he never had the determination to be a high flier in life rather, all he promised her were just mere wishes he felt will come to pass based on his talents and potentials! 

But for a man or woman to manifest in destiny much more is required! 

I have discovered that most times, the issue is not just the difference in status but in the willpower to succeed! 

For instance, we often say "he is not rich today does not mean he will be poor for life" but the point is this; is he even willing to be rich? The truth is not every person has the desire to be rich! By desire I mean a strong determination such as will succeed against all odds! 

Not everyone wants to be exceptional, excellent or extraordinary, some persons are just comfortable with their life the way it is even when they have what it takes to make it better. 

So when you see their ability and expect much more from them, they never meet up with your expectations! 

They keep planning and never actualize any of their plans, they almost never complete any project if eventually they start, they have one thousand reasons why things are the way they are and when such person happens to be believers, they are obviously waiting on God! 

Waiting for God's time, God's direction, God's intervention! Like Gideon, many are waiting for God to intervene in their case and have failed to recognize and put to use the ability God has given to them! 

Not until God addressed Gideon as a mighty man of valour he never knew he was one and right now God is saying to someone "go in this thy might" Brother/sister take your destiny in your hands! 

If you are such a person that expects so much in life that is, one that is full of ambition you must ensure that the person you are getting involve with is like minded!

 If not you either take it upon yourself to work on him or her or you just save yourself future misery! Not every man can bear or handle your dream, he can only be supportive if he is ambitious too! Enjoy your weekend!

The night was quiet and calm, all I could hear was the sound of rain drops, it was drizzling! As I lay on my bed in the dark with my eyes heavy with sleep I just could not allow myself to fall asleep; thinking of the task at hand I struggled and got back on my table. 

Sleep is a luxury to me at this point in time even if it is a basic necessity! In spite of the cold and the exhaustion from the day's activity, I had to stay awake, the life of a student! 

Then, I realize that for us to get things done, if we must attain some heights and make impact then, we must be ready to give something in exchange! You may not deprive yourself sleep, yours could be food, hangout, relationship, leisure and others. 

Having an interest and making plans are prerequisites but determination is key! 

It is not enough to be enthusiastic about the goal, you must ensure you push through until it comes through! 

Things do not always respond to our efforts as we expect but our success lies in our ability to keep pushing in spite of the resistance. Many natural and artificial processes occur by overcoming pressure or resistance!

 Your heart overcomes pressure to pump blood, current overcomes resistance for it to flow and many other examples so your case is not odd, it's just normal!

Progression is another key; in life, very few things come to an end just like that, there was yesterday, there is today and there will be tomorrow and like that we see sequence in so many things around us!

And stuffs like impact progressively happens, 'over time' is the time frame required. Your so much effort today cannot grant you the success you desire.

Progression ensures a track record or a life style and not just a one time thing. Therefore, the effort you made yesterday and even today is not enough, you should have a track record of consistency. 

Meanwhile, there is no better motivation than that which comes from excellent results! So, do not just make effort but that which will yield excellent results! 

Excellence is in you, you just need to stir it up! Do have a blessed week and a happy new month in advance!

 GoodMorningFromIseme

Hello to all the guys out there this morning! I will just go straight to the point, no need beating around the bush! What will you do when she thinks you two have something in common, I mean she sees you as her lover and you only see her as a friend? 

One guy said "it's her business that has nothing to do with me, I never asked her out neither did I tell her any day that I love her!" 

Meanwhile, a lady said "he must not voice it out, his actions clearly states that he loves me. He is nice to me and even goes out of his way to care for me!" 

Another lady says "I don't have to wait for him to love me, I love him and I'm very sure he will reciprocate my love in no time" 

To be candid, most ladies who have suffered heartbreak only became victims of their own delusions! A guy being nice does not insinuate that he wants something more and niceness is not a parameter that indicates nor measures love! 

A brother is nice so is a friend and a lover as well and in fact anybody can be nice so, it is not enough to be nice for you to call him your lover! 

Again, understanding the fact that relationship is mutual and defined by the commitment of the two of you to each other will save you from having false hope! Did he commit himself to you in anyway? Did he make any promise to you? What exactly are you holding onto? 

You will be gambling with yourself to assume that he loves you when he has not committed himself to you in anyway! You should recognize your place in his life, there is no need throwing yourself on anyone just because he is nice and cool! 

It is true that every woman wants a man that is caring, responsible and reliable but then, you should understand that not every nice guy will make a good husband for you! 

Someone once said "you don't let something good go" so some ladies think it is smartness to take advantage of friendship with a nice guy and cajole him into a relationship, you are not actually being smart but irrational! 

Even if he stood by you when you were emotionally down and needed someone to support you does not mean he is right for you neither does it insinuate that he is interested in you! 

Not until he comes boldly and ask for a relationship and you accept, do not harm yourself by assuming that you two are in a relationship! Meanwhile, if you think he is interested but lacks the courage to say it then, there are ways to find out! 

A simple but direct question like "what kind of a lady do you like to marry? Or what do you want in a woman? etc" can actually give you an idea of what he thinks of you and give him an opportunity to open up!

Whereas, if you two have become so close that you and even other persons around are thinking there is something going on between the two of you then, you should be bold enough to ask him to define your relationship!

What exactly are we? Are we friends or lovers? If you think it's absurd, I think it's reasonable because it will save you from unnecessary heartbreak!

Guys! That you never asked her out is not enough to justify yourself, you should define your relationship especially when you realize she is fast becoming emotionally attached to you! In so doing, you will save her a lot of trouble and exonerate yourself before any heart gets broken or shattered!

 Do not be careless about her emotions and feelings for you if not you will facilitate and strengthen her false hope without even knowing! Do you even realize that most girls personalize what you call pleasantries or politeness?

So, you should be careful how you call pet names or how you hug in the name of exchanging pleasantries! And don't always forget that the lady is an emotional being which means she analyzes things based on her emotions rather than reasoning!

 Ladies, you too should be able to define your relationship with any guy hovering around you! Let them know their position in your life and stop keeping anyone hanging on the fence! It will save you a lot of trouble!

I hope you will be mindful how you hangout this weekend! *winks* Happy weekend with lots of fun!