Hello to all the guys out there this morning! I will just go straight to the point, no need beating around the bush! What will you do when she thinks you two have something in common, I mean she sees you as her lover and you only see her as a friend? 

One guy said "it's her business that has nothing to do with me, I never asked her out neither did I tell her any day that I love her!" 

Meanwhile, a lady said "he must not voice it out, his actions clearly states that he loves me. He is nice to me and even goes out of his way to care for me!" 

Another lady says "I don't have to wait for him to love me, I love him and I'm very sure he will reciprocate my love in no time" 

To be candid, most ladies who have suffered heartbreak only became victims of their own delusions! A guy being nice does not insinuate that he wants something more and niceness is not a parameter that indicates nor measures love! 

A brother is nice so is a friend and a lover as well and in fact anybody can be nice so, it is not enough to be nice for you to call him your lover! 

Again, understanding the fact that relationship is mutual and defined by the commitment of the two of you to each other will save you from having false hope! Did he commit himself to you in anyway? Did he make any promise to you? What exactly are you holding onto? 

You will be gambling with yourself to assume that he loves you when he has not committed himself to you in anyway! You should recognize your place in his life, there is no need throwing yourself on anyone just because he is nice and cool! 

It is true that every woman wants a man that is caring, responsible and reliable but then, you should understand that not every nice guy will make a good husband for you! 

Someone once said "you don't let something good go" so some ladies think it is smartness to take advantage of friendship with a nice guy and cajole him into a relationship, you are not actually being smart but irrational! 

Even if he stood by you when you were emotionally down and needed someone to support you does not mean he is right for you neither does it insinuate that he is interested in you! 

Not until he comes boldly and ask for a relationship and you accept, do not harm yourself by assuming that you two are in a relationship! Meanwhile, if you think he is interested but lacks the courage to say it then, there are ways to find out! 

A simple but direct question like "what kind of a lady do you like to marry? Or what do you want in a woman? etc" can actually give you an idea of what he thinks of you and give him an opportunity to open up!

Whereas, if you two have become so close that you and even other persons around are thinking there is something going on between the two of you then, you should be bold enough to ask him to define your relationship!

What exactly are we? Are we friends or lovers? If you think it's absurd, I think it's reasonable because it will save you from unnecessary heartbreak!

Guys! That you never asked her out is not enough to justify yourself, you should define your relationship especially when you realize she is fast becoming emotionally attached to you! In so doing, you will save her a lot of trouble and exonerate yourself before any heart gets broken or shattered!

 Do not be careless about her emotions and feelings for you if not you will facilitate and strengthen her false hope without even knowing! Do you even realize that most girls personalize what you call pleasantries or politeness?

So, you should be careful how you call pet names or how you hug in the name of exchanging pleasantries! And don't always forget that the lady is an emotional being which means she analyzes things based on her emotions rather than reasoning!

 Ladies, you too should be able to define your relationship with any guy hovering around you! Let them know their position in your life and stop keeping anyone hanging on the fence! It will save you a lot of trouble!

I hope you will be mindful how you hangout this weekend! *winks* Happy weekend with lots of fun!

When you are sure you love him and want to share your life with him, when you are sure you are ready and he is ready too then, you should say yes to him! You are afraid of saying yes either because you are not certain of your supposed partner or because one one of you or even the both of you is not ready. 

"He says he loves me and he wants to share his life with me but I'm not so sure If I love him to the extent of marrying him, saying yes seems as if i'm running too fast and taking things too far, I'm not sure if he is really what I want! 

Marriage is a lifetime commitment that I won't be able to back out and no matter how things turn out I'm expected to be a faithful and responsible wife therefore, I'm not willing to take chances with anybody but honestly, I don't even know if I'm the problem, maybe I'm just scared because he seems to be a nice guy.

 I just cannot pinpoint why I am not so sure of what we feel for each other but I just know that I am not sure..." You may have professed love based on whatever attracted you but seriously when it comes to settling down for life, so many considerations come into play and reality points at so many things that your emotions may want to overlook. 

But the fact still remains that you are to decide if he is worth sharing your life with till death do you part and "when" to do so is after a sincere and thorough evaluation, aligning values, likes, dislikes and attitudes and of course with prayers. 

If there is an attitude or something about him that you are not comfortable with and cannot do anything about, it is either you are ready to live with it for life or you simply walk away.

It's unfortunate that most ladies walk away even from situations they could have managed or support their supposed spouses to win or overcome.

Meanwhile, a few others walk into traps and bondage with the notion that love is blind, they overlook what they know they cannot handle or tolerate and later on they find themselves enduring marriage instead of enjoying it. 

My candid advice is that if it is something you cannot help to correct or manage and will soon become a thorn in your flesh then, the earlier you walk away the better for you but if it can be worked on, you should join hands with him and make him the man of your dreams! 

On the other hand, it might be that he is quite OK and responsible enough for you but he is not ready due to other factors one should put into consideration for marriage! Not that he does not want to marry yet but that he does not have what it takes to even pay your dowry and maintain a home. 

Imagine going into marriage with a guy who has no source of income or is financially not stable all because of what you feel, it is easier to take care of a "girl friend" than a wife and with a wife you probably won't delay having kids, it is obviously demanding and expensive. He does not have to be rich but he should be at least financially responsible and capable.   

Meanwhile, you might just not be ready to be a wife and a mother and this of course will make you reluctant and scared! If you feel there are things you are not clear about or there are things that should be put in place or you just need more time to really be sure since there is no going back, take as much time. 

Get clarity, put or ensure those things are put in order but remember you do not have all the time in the world and he is not going to wait forever! Some of your fears or considerations may be quite cogent but sometimes you are just scared of the whole stuff called "marriage". 

If you have reasonably found him worthy, responsible and ready and you are ready too then, you should say yes to him! Now, you are wondering how do I even know I am ready? It's straight forward, it's simply how ready you are to support, to build, to manage, to protect and to preserve. 

It boils down to knowing your duty and commitment as a wife and as a mother and having the willingness to take up such responsibilities! It's the first weekend of March, do have an exciting weekend and happy new month!