"My Silence Makes Me Look Unserious, When I'm I Sure...To Say 'Yes' To Him?"

When you are sure you love him and want to share your life with him, when you are sure you are ready and he is ready too then, you should say yes to him! You are afraid of saying yes either because you are not certain of your supposed partner or because one one of you or even the both of you is not ready. 

"He says he loves me and he wants to share his life with me but I'm not so sure If I love him to the extent of marrying him, saying yes seems as if i'm running too fast and taking things too far, I'm not sure if he is really what I want! 

Marriage is a lifetime commitment that I won't be able to back out and no matter how things turn out I'm expected to be a faithful and responsible wife therefore, I'm not willing to take chances with anybody but honestly, I don't even know if I'm the problem, maybe I'm just scared because he seems to be a nice guy.

 I just cannot pinpoint why I am not so sure of what we feel for each other but I just know that I am not sure..." You may have professed love based on whatever attracted you but seriously when it comes to settling down for life, so many considerations come into play and reality points at so many things that your emotions may want to overlook. 

But the fact still remains that you are to decide if he is worth sharing your life with till death do you part and "when" to do so is after a sincere and thorough evaluation, aligning values, likes, dislikes and attitudes and of course with prayers. 

If there is an attitude or something about him that you are not comfortable with and cannot do anything about, it is either you are ready to live with it for life or you simply walk away.

It's unfortunate that most ladies walk away even from situations they could have managed or support their supposed spouses to win or overcome.

Meanwhile, a few others walk into traps and bondage with the notion that love is blind, they overlook what they know they cannot handle or tolerate and later on they find themselves enduring marriage instead of enjoying it. 

My candid advice is that if it is something you cannot help to correct or manage and will soon become a thorn in your flesh then, the earlier you walk away the better for you but if it can be worked on, you should join hands with him and make him the man of your dreams! 

On the other hand, it might be that he is quite OK and responsible enough for you but he is not ready due to other factors one should put into consideration for marriage! Not that he does not want to marry yet but that he does not have what it takes to even pay your dowry and maintain a home. 

Imagine going into marriage with a guy who has no source of income or is financially not stable all because of what you feel, it is easier to take care of a "girl friend" than a wife and with a wife you probably won't delay having kids, it is obviously demanding and expensive. He does not have to be rich but he should be at least financially responsible and capable.   

Meanwhile, you might just not be ready to be a wife and a mother and this of course will make you reluctant and scared! If you feel there are things you are not clear about or there are things that should be put in place or you just need more time to really be sure since there is no going back, take as much time. 

Get clarity, put or ensure those things are put in order but remember you do not have all the time in the world and he is not going to wait forever! Some of your fears or considerations may be quite cogent but sometimes you are just scared of the whole stuff called "marriage". 

If you have reasonably found him worthy, responsible and ready and you are ready too then, you should say yes to him! Now, you are wondering how do I even know I am ready? It's straight forward, it's simply how ready you are to support, to build, to manage, to protect and to preserve. 

It boils down to knowing your duty and commitment as a wife and as a mother and having the willingness to take up such responsibilities! It's the first weekend of March, do have an exciting weekend and happy new month!

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