There Is Nothing Wrong In Dating! It's As Simple And Clear As It Sounds...

A beautiful Saturday morning to you out there, I hope your week was not so stressful and I guess you are enjoying the weekend! This morning I will like to talk on the above topic "there is nothing wrong with dating", in a conversation with a classmate some days back on the subject matter, I realized that the term or rather the concept of dating is misinterpreted! 

Maybe because of how the term has been misused and abused! Within the short break between two classes we got talking and he asked " what is your take on dating? And I responded "what do you mean by dating? And I'm going to start by asking you that same question this morning, what exactly do you mean or understand by the term 'dating'? 

Personally, I regard the words dating and courtship as the same terminologies which can be use interchangeably except otherwise. Although, I do not dispute the classes some persons have tried to categorize them into! First, I will like to highlight some misconceptions or rather how 'dating' has been wrongly labelled:

1. Dating is a relationship between two teenagers who simply fancy and admire each other with no sense of responsibility

2. Dating is merely a romantic relationship which gives room for fornication

3. Dating is a game for players and unreasonable lovers

4. Dating is unreasonable and distracting

5. Dating is a sin

These and many more are what so many persons call dating but dating is simply a term and as it stands, it is to you whatever you call it! Funny enough, I have asked people the meaning of courtship and they say it's the relationship between two persons who have agreed to marry and there is this maturity, purpose and sense of responsibility they accord to those courting even if some courtships are actually the same scam they expect from dating.

 So, I will simply call dating 'courtship before proposal' since the courtship you know is after proposal! Most guys take advantage of ladies in the name of dating and others as well do same in the name of courtship. Fornication is fornication, whether in dating or in courtship so tagging dating as an opportunity for fornication is actually a limited understanding of the word fornication! 

Whether teenagers or youths or adults, in as much as two persons are not married any sexual intercourse is fornication and mind you no relationship is a sin until it goes against God's word which is that marriage is honourable, the bed undefiled! Like courtship, dating is a relationship between two persons who are attracted to and interest in each other.

 Dating will not distract more than courtship or marriage will do, if you are not matured enough to handle emotional relationship you will be distracted in courtship likewise in dating. The two persons in relationship with no intention of getting married but just to catch fun are not dating neither are they in courtship since they have no interest in getting to know each other better! 

Relationship is an umbrella that encompasses both emotional and nonemotional associations, it is use interchangeably in emotional relationship that are purposeful as well as those that are simply for fun. Dating is a process like courtship and both are for the single aim of getting to know each other better just like courtship, except that in courtship there is already a promise of marriage unlike in dating!

 Of course you don't expect me to accept the proposal of a person I have not known a bit so, this is where dating comes in. That is why I call it courtship before proposal because the sole aim for courtship is to know each other better for the sake of marriage of which this process starts with dating!

Now, I know you are wandering how many times you have to date to find the right person, it may have sounded more like a trial by error method to you but I will simply say that if your attraction is value oriented then, you may not have to be moving from one person to another in search of the right person.

Whatever qualifications you are looking out for in a person you want to marry will guide you in choosing the person to date and as such streamline your options. Meanwhile, not all dates nor courtships even end up in marriage so whether you call it dating or courtship it remains a term and not a determinant in failed or successful relationships!

 Courtship or engagement to a great extent had certainty but presently it has also been taken for granted that the rate of failed courtships and broken engagements is increasing with every passing day.

 So, neither courtship nor dating is a guarantee for marriage but only terms that describe progression in romantic relationship! I would like to hear your view on this! Good morning once more and have a great weekend!

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