A TALE OF BROKE LOVERS! What Are You Suppose To Do When You Are Both In Love But Broke?

She is not financially buoyant, she has very little or no income at all. She learnt to make do with what she has as she would not want to be a financial burden on anyone. She has no man in her life and did not see it as a big deal but her friends felt that that is the reason she is broke if only she would accept anyone, she will spend freely like them and won't think of how to pay monthly bills. 

Of course, her man should take care of her basic needs and even her financial excesses, so they say. But as fate would have it, she fell in love with a broke guy! She was not really bothered about his financial incapability at that moment, in as much as she found a peaceful companion. Her friends felt she was stupid and unreasonable but she never mind. Her life is suppose to be easy and fun now especially when it comes to finances since she now has a man in her life. 

But no, there was no financial freedom rather, it was an increased burden. She always thought of ways she could help her fiancée but there was nothing she could do, she had not even finish helping herself. They had so much in common and shared a lot about themselves with each other but when it comes to finance, they both complained and comforted each other. 

Of a truth every other thing was in order, they were just perfect for each other but how would they overcome their financial crises? Not as though the guy was lazy but as it were, things were not just working out for him at that time. They both want to do so much for each other and even bear each other's financial burden but they were handicapped. How long will they continue like this? 

It was not too early to march down the aisle but they could not think of that though they both want to spend the rest of their lives together! Of course they knew things will be complicated for them and anger, lack and frustration would over shadow their love if they go ahead to get married and make babies. They counted the cost and were wise and disciplined enough to first tackle the financial issue before taking on more responsibilities. 

The guy was scared he might lose the love of his life if he does not gain financial stability soon. Meanwhile, the girl was wondering if her life will remain this way, will she continue in lack? When will she live happily, having the things she want and not having to weep because of lack? Reality is dawning on her, after all she has been through, is she going to bring children into this world to suffer the way she did? 

Now, she is feeling stupid, time is not on her side, she should get married now but how will a man who cannot take care of her, take care of a family? She is confuse, she is not certain of what the future with him will look like, she can't bear to suffer as a wife and mother. She reconsiders her decision of loving him, "is he actually right for me? Is it not better to walk away than to walk into a future with no assurance? 

What exactly is he holding unto? He is holding unto God, he believes God will make a way for him soon." She believes so too but how long will she wait? When exactly will that be?

"But is financial incapability enough to walk away from a man who adores you?" She thought! She is aware how much he loves and cherish her. "What if I walk away and he becomes wealthy tomorrow? 

I will become a loser and will regret it all my life. What if I eventually walk away and find someone who is financially capable but do not know what it means to love? Or even happens to be an abuser? I might as well walk away from my marriage." She had a second thought; "he is not lazy, he is not a reckless spender, I think all he needs is time. Come to think of it, if I cannot stand by him and be patient with him now he has nothing, how else will I prove that I really love him? 

Meanwhile, what will become of him if I walk away? I will betray his love and trust, what will be his hope? If there is anytime he needs me, it is now! Walking away simply means I'm selfish and self-centered." She made up her mind not to give in to her financial pressures, she will not loose faith in God and in the man she loves after a thorough reality check. "I will do my best to earn as much as I can even if I have to support and help him stand on his feet financially, i'm sure that will not be too much price to pay for the man I love and my home after all." So she concluded!

They both worked hard with patience and ensured they had a stable source of income. They were not rich neither were they poor. Paying bills was no longer a problem for either of them and lack of money was no longer a hindrance to the expression of their love for each other and they got married. Only responsible lovers will be this thoughtful and reasonable. They did not just stop at having enough to pay their bills but made plans and wise investment for the future and their children. 

Certainly, they won't have to beg or suffer frustration because of lack! Have you both counted the cost? It is not enough to be in love, it comes with financial as well as other responsibilities. How ready and responsible is your man? Are you willing to be supportive and patient with him? It saves a lot to be responsible lovers! This is where we will end it on Love/Relationship this weekend!
Happy weekend!

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