Does He Actually Loves Me? Putting Your Partner To Test!

 

Gone are the days you set up your supposed spouse to know if she or he really loves you! I know some persons will not agree with me on this but honestly speaking, we are more enlightened now to know that the result of a one time set up or test is not enough to determine who really loves us, only a track record can validate that.

 On the other hand, we know more now that there is nobody bigger than making a mistake or falling into temptation which ever you may call it. So, why deliberately tempt him or her when you know that no one is a superman or superwoman? 

The truth is that "loving you" might not be enough to automatically turn a cheat into a saint nor a man who lacks self control and discipline into a disciplined man or one with self control! Even when he tries to become one because he does not want to hurt you, he fails to keep up with it because that is not him! 

Yes, no one is going to change because of you except they come to terms with themselves and decide to change with or without you! What I'm I saying in essence? I'm simply saying that setting up your supposed spouse or putting him or her to test will only produce a result dependent on chance which cannot tell you if he or she loves you.

 I mean, a good person can fail your test by mistake and as well a bad person can pass your test by chance which makes it unreliable! That is why I so much agree with the definition that "love is a response to value" if you must be sure of his or her love for you, you should first be sure of who he or she really is.

 If your love is built on value, it will save you so much trouble of trust and assurance. Of course, lack of trust is the only reason you will put your spouse to test, you may either distrust him or her because of his or her past, your experience or a preconceived opinion of the opposite sex. 

Which ever the case maybe, I will advise that you sought it out even before going into a relationship because any relationship built on distrust ends up sour and brutal! If you can't handle his or her past then, do not accept to.

 I personally believe that a person should not be written off based on his past, I believe in giving people "second chances" but if you know you will always be suspicious because of his or her past then, do well to avoid such relationship!

 If on the other hand you are judging him or her based on your own experience, maybe you have been deceived in time past though it hurts but then, it will do you more good to give yourself another opportunity because a man is evil does not make all men evil.

 Treat him on a neutral ground and do not make things difficult for him nor punish him for the sins of your ex. Talking of a prior opinion, we all have the right to our different opinions and you can not actually be so sure how right or wrong your opinion is until you put it to test. 

Meanwhile, putting your opinion to test and ascertaining what is actually right or wrong, demands that you should be open enough to learn, do not be in a rush to conclude. The man or woman who loves you needs you to help him or her stay strong for you, remember relationship is mutual! Happy weekend!

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