Why Many In Search For Love Are Wounded And Miserable!

For lack of it many are devastated and desolate. In attempt to describe it, so many are confused and have concluded that it does not exist! 

In search for it, others have wandered off and are lost! In trying to protect and preserve it, many are wounded and miserable even when it was not it in the first place. So many persons are willing to offer so much or give a ransom for it but then, it is priceless! 

Some have asked if possessing it is based on merit or favour and I say both are required! Meanwhile, some got it and took it for granted and as such they lost it! Some have believed and are seriously holding unto something else in place of it no matter what it cost them. 

Only few have found it and of course it has brought with it balance, peace and joy to such lives! What could it be? It is 'love'! 

Looking at the different categories of persons and the many casualties who do not even know what they seek, I wonder! What exactly is the problem? 

And I have discovered that two main factors are responsible why many have not found love and won't even recognize it when they find it!

1. Misconceptions: so many persons have a wrong idea of the word 'love'! People grow up taking in so much garbage on the subject matter and the information they receive moulds or rather builds a wrong concept in them and with time as they grow, they tend to act base on the information they have gathered so far! 

It's unfortunate almost everyone has something to say about love, that is how significant it is in the life of every individual! Every person needs to be loved and desire to love as well. 

Some persons are not satisfied no matter how they try to satisfy themselves because love is missing in their lives and because the need for it is common to everyone, it is a topic with too many instructors who themselves lack true understanding and meaning of love.

2. Wrong sources: love is mystical, sacred and it has depth beyond the physical! It has its root in God, little wonder the bible says God is love! So when you are searching for love invariably, you are searching for God! Yes!

"...for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God." The reason why you have learnt or gotten something else in place of love is because you have refused to seek God nor accept His love!

As a matter of fact and urgency, you have to unlearn virtually everything you have learnt about love because what you think you know is actually the problem you have! 

Unlike the concept of love, the reality of love is not something trending nor ubiquitous, only few persons know what love is and have experienced love and others say it does not exist because they fail to find!

How would you know if you are holding unto something else in place of love?

1. Love is not selfish: it considers the other person. It has nothing to do with exploitation rather, it sacrifices for the sake of another.

If all he or she is after is his/her own benefit and comfort then such a person has no love.

2. Love brings glory to God: anything contrary to the will and standard of God is not love! A life that has love will glorify God in any relationship, if your relationship is not interested in pleasing God then, what you call love is actually lust.

3. Love is peaceful: true love gives hope and assurance and ensures a life pleasing to God and as such it brings peace. "There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment..."

4. Love is patient and it endures: because it is not selfish, it makes allowance for the fault and mistakes of others. It is accommodating!

5. Love is joyful: if love has made you miserable then, it is obviously not love. 

The only way to ascertain true love is to first accept God's love!

It is my prayer for you this morning that you do not enslave yourself in the name of love and I pray for God's deliverance for as many who are in bondage already!
Do have a lovely weekend!

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