"Second Chances Are Rare To Create First Impression!" Why Do We Care?

Why are we so conscious of the idea, feeling, or opinion others have about us? People even go to the extent of self denial just to impress some persons. Everyone wants to be commended and identified with, we are so much concerned about how people see us. "What does he think about me?, I'm sure she thinks I'm nice, I guess he finds me interesting, I just hope he does not see me as boring, he should have noticed that I'm a good person..." 

Why do we care? 

Especially when we come in contact with persons for the first time, remember the common saying "first impression matters a lot!" And a bosom friend of mine said "second chances are rare to create first impression!" Hmmmmmmm! This simply points out that those around us, whether we have known them for sometime or we just meant them form an integral part of our lives! 

Our self respect or self esteem soars when people commend and compliment us, positive commendations from others boost our confidence beyond average. And this also emphasizes on the importance of relationship to man, we value relationship even without knowing we do. You simply want to be in his good book because you value him, relating with him is a confidence booster and knowing that he appreciates you makes you feel good! 

But the issue is not actually the impression others have about you but who you really are! Are you really nice? Are you reliable? How true are you? People may have a wrong notion about you but somehow somewhere, they get to encounter the real you and their notion is either positively or negatively corrected! 

Then, people say things like "I thought she is a good person, little did I know she is this wild, is this really his kind of person?, why was he pretending all this while?, I never knew she has such a beautiful soul, he is nothing close to what I heard, she is much more amazing than I thought..." Why abandon the person you are and go about painting the image you are not? 

When you do this, it means you are not comfortable with you! Why don't you like you? Whatever your reasons are, giving a false image of you in the name of impression simply means you've lost hope in you! You are a work in progress so I'm I, no one is completely beautiful. Whether it's an issue with your status or condition or even a character flaw, denying it is rejecting change. 

Of course when you say you are healthy then, you will have no need for drugs! Focus on you not the image you want others to see, work on yourself and you won't seek to be noticed rather, you will naturally shine without struggle like the stars of the firmament! Deep down, you know exactly who you are and what you are up to, you know your target and your plans. 

The picture you are trying to paint for the next person makes no different because the impression you give to people does not change who you are and the course of your life! And no matter how you try to hide you, it has a way of creeping out. You are an amazing person even the way you are and with a little work you will be amazed at the real you! Believe me, you are beautiful! 

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