Experience Is An Indispensable Tool For Guidance! Overprotection Is Limitation...

At times, the best you can do is to step aside and allow whoever is involve to learn experientially even when you are so sure that he will get hurt in the process. Not because you lack counsel nor do you want him to get hurt but because it is the best way for him to understand and learn! Some people may never learn from the experience of others on a particular issue so, no matter what you do to ensure his choice and decision is wise and safe, he sees you as a hindrance or limitation without thinking about what you said or what you have to say. 

Moreover, insisting that he does things the way you think or know is best for him is no longer guidance but overprotection! Of which, you deny him his right to choose and act using his mind and invariably you deny him his right to be independent! Everyone wants to exercise his or her ability to make choices and take decisions whether they are right or not, limiting him is like confining him to your own niche and such restrictions in exercising one's mind negatively affects a person's self-esteem. 

It makes him think less of himself, having no confidence in himself, he sees himself as a moron who can not think nor do things right on his own! When you try to save a situation and the fellow involve does not listen to you, guidance is not forcing him to do what you know is right rather, it is standing by him and pointing out his lessons from his mistakes at the end of the day and as well encouraging him that sometimes our instinct and even our reasoning disappoint us. 

In that way, he becomes receptive to your counsel and you find it easier to pass your message to him though, it may seem as medicine after death but then it serves not just for the moment or present but the future as well, it is no longer just a lecture but a practical class. The aim of guidance is not to ensure and insist on doing the right thing at a particular point in time but to walk a person through his possible options and give your recommendations, the target is beyond making him do the right thing st a particular point in time but to ensure he sees from a clearer and better perspective. 

The most you can do for a person is to influence and help shape his mind through this gradual process, in which he learns from other people's as well as his own experiences.

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