Myths Of Relationship: #2. All Men Are The Same!

This is a very common saying, almost every lady thinks all men are the same and most men think all ladies are the same but I dare to say all men are not the same neither are all ladies the same rather, you are the same! I'm not trying to say you are a bad person, what I mean is that if you were taken advantaged of in your first and second relationship, it is because you are the same person who failed to learn lessons or make effort to correct some things. 

You may actually be a good person but lack something which the guys you've encountered have capitalized on even when they do not intend to take advantage of you, it just turns out they do! Most times, it is not their fault, it is just the way you are. I don't mean to hurt you and you should not be upset! 

As I write now, I do not know you or if you are experiencing this but if you are, the best thing you will do now, is to be honest with yourself and be open to what I have to say. I'm not trying to blame you rather, I'm trying to help you. Let me tell you about Omoye, she is a 27years old lady who has been in two serious relationships at two different times. 

Both ought to have ended up in marriage but they never survived courtship and of course it is not a  must that every relationship must lead to marriage but then, Omoye has been heart broken twice, so she won't have anything to do with any guy again in the name of love. In fact she says "...just don't tell me about love, all men are the same, it's better to stay single..." 

Especially, being the good and caring girl she is, she keeps wondering why guys take her for granted. She is really a nice person who never says no to anything, she allows you have your way in everything even when it hurts her. She said to me "...despite all my sacrifice" Omoye puts so much effort into her relationships even when she is irritated she never says a word.

Rather, she goes on sacrificing grudgingly all because she does not want to loose him, she eventually lost both of them. You don't build a relationship on fear, the bible says "There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear". Why are you afraid? Why do you think you will loose him? Hmmmmmm! From my conversation with some victims, I discovered that they think they are not so beautiful, smart and gorgeous as a result, they lack confidence and have a low self esteem. 

Unfortunately for them, the way you treat yourself is the way people will treat you including the man in your life. At the beginning, Omoye never complained about anything but pretended she was OK with everything because she was trying to protect her relationship but over time she began to nag over everything out of frustration. 

She complains when there is a lady around her man, she gets too suspicious even when the guy affirms his love for her over and over again! Because she has a low self-esteem, she lacks confidence in herself, her partner and her relationship therefore, her niceness and effort to protect her relationship made no difference! 

Of course nagging will make any person wear out too soon! If you feel good about yourself, you will be confident in yourself, your partner and your relationship! This may not be your story exactly but if you are of the opinion that all men are the same or all ladies are the same and have been heart broken severally, before blaming your failed relationship on the opposite sex, be sure you are not the issue! 

Being a dependent spouse or a burden carrier is also frustrating, your temperament is something you should also look out for and many more! I can assure you of a different and blissful relationship/marriage if you can look within, be honest and work on yourself! 

Happy weekend!
GoodMorningFromIseme

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