What Should I Do? The Act Of Questions And Answers! 5 Questions That Will Provide You With The Answers You Need!

Just like in every other aspect of life, people keep shouting of problems in their relationship. Some even say "my relationship is problematic" and they actually feel hopeless about such issues even when in most cases it is not as bad. If there is a problem, there should be a solution!

Solutions are mainly answers, to have the answer to your problem, you must be able to reduce your problem into as much questions as possible! Problem is a concept of its own, solving it requires that you develop analytical questions on it. Your solution lies in the answers to your questions. Let's see the basic questions you should answer:

1. What exactly is the problem?
Identifying your problem is a good start! Even a doctor has to diagnose you if he must prescribe drugs for you to get well. Interestingly, you assist the doctor in his diagnosis since you have to tell him how you feel, where you feel pain and any other symptoms for him to even know the test to carry out.

But when it comes to life issues and relationship matters, you just keep shouting how your partner is an issue, how she frustrates your effort and how tired and hopeless you are. Some people say "I have tried everything I know but nothing has changed for good!"  This is so simply because you do not even know what your problem is! How can you possibly find a solution when you do not even know your problem? Diagnosis entails identifying the problem, the nature, cause and effect. Therefore, the next question is

2. Why is it a problem? 

This has to do with identifying the effects of such problem and how it has limited you. Not until one is able to pinpoint why something is an issue for him, his problem may actually be something else. It is not so simple to pinpoint like telling the doctor you have a fever and could not even go to the office. Some persons do not realize how much an issue has done to them or their relationships while others in trying to answer this question will discover that they have no problem.

3. How severe is my case? 

Some persons are really fond of making a mountain out of a molehill in describing the issues with their partners and the situation of their relationships. How bad is it really? If you do your homework, you will realize that what you call hopeless can actually be managed and even solved! Such that there is actually no cause for alarm nor self pity and depression.

4. What is the cause of my problem? 

Knowing the cause gives you an idea of the solution. You may either avoid or limit the cause and this will in turn make your problem to shrink and vanish and if not the problem will at least stop increasing. Often times, you are the cause of the unending issues in your relationship but because relationship involves two, you always find someone to put the blame on.

And as a matter of fact, it is ignorance and self deciet for you to expect you and your partner to always agree on everything without a disagreement because she will sometimes have a contrary opinion. There is no relationship that is void of arguements but they disagree to agree. Making sure that offenses are forgiven and no grudge is harboured!

5. What can I do? 

If your analysis from question one to four is accurate then, you won't find it difficult to answer question five. Which summarizes your answers from question one to four and points out the solution to your problem. Just that some persons are not ready to take responsibility for their relationship or life, expecting your partner to fix himself or herslf, fix you as well and fix your relationship is self deciet.

Don't forget, relationship is mutual! Sometimes, you may need the help of other persons and as such you should be able to identify who can be of help to you and how to go about it.
In conclusion, love is beautiful and relationship can be a blessing or a curse depending on you and your partner.

Meanwhile, most of the problems people face in their relationships are minor issues that can be resolved! So, before you give up on him, before you walk away, you should do a thorough analysis on your relationship. I'm pretty sure by the time you are done, you will have a rethink! This is it on Love/Relationship this weekend! Enjoy your weekend!
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